I’m sure you remember all the snow that the Seattle area was blessed with in January, specifically for me, I remember all the snow on January 17th for a couple of reasons – the March for Life in Olympia was that day and it was my birthday. I was really looking forward to spending my special day on a bus traveling to our state capitol with my church family and students from St. Pius X School, holding a red rose and standing up for life. Instead, I stayed home with my wonderful husband and got lots of phone calls from friends and family telling me they had intended on getting me a present, but with all snow, they couldn’t get to a store. I can’t even tell you how many times I’ve heard that in my 54 years!
I wasn’t the only one finding myself with some extra time – schools were closed, appointments were cancelled – you know SNOW DAYS! Because of the nature of the pregnancy center business, one of my first thoughts was “we are going to be extra busy with pregnancy tests in about six weeks or so.” And we were, and the majority of these patients have indeed had a positive pregnancy test, and the majority of these are indeed abortion minded. After all, it wasn’t their fault that school was cancelled or that they couldn’t drive to work because of all the snow. Following are three very brief, very true, and very sad stories of some of women that came to our office as a result of the snow.
The first is an 18 year old, senior in high school, who, after having a positive pregnancy test scheduled an appointment for an ultrasound ~ to see the child she stated said she would be aborting. The day of her appointment, she brought two friends with her who proceeded to laugh through the entire exam ~ as if the baby were a joke. The mother was talking to the father of the baby on her cell phone during the procedure, nonchalantly ~ almost as if she was shopping at the mall. At one point she said to our nurse, Mary, “wow, that’s weird, it looks like a real baby.” Pointing out the arms and legs, Mary assured her that it was a real baby. Before leaving our office, she requested pictures of this baby, the one she said she will be aborting.
A second difficult case concerns a 22 year old single woman who is pregnant for the first time. She professes to be a Christian and she doesn’t believe in abortion. Laverna spent about an hour and a half talking to her answering her questions about the development of the baby and the possible side affects of the abortion procedure ~ physically and emotionally. Prior to leaving our office, this patient said she was going to go home, read her bible and pray for God’s guidance. She scheduled an appointment for an ultrasound for the next day, but she didn’t show up for it.
A third abortion minded patient was a 19 year old, high school graduate in her first year of college, with one abortion in her past already. She quite frankly stated that she simply couldn’t disappoint her parents by being a single mother. She did, however, ask how long she could wait before having the abortion. She even wanted to know specifics about the development of the baby at that point.
These are only three of several young women we have seen recently who strongly stated their intention and their desire to abort, and it has been really tough on our nurses ~ emotionally, physically, mentally ~ really every way except spiritually. Our nurses, Mary, Laverna, Jody and Trish are so solidly grounded in their faith that the love of Jesus shines brightly through them all the time! They are truly amazing and loving and I am confident they have all been placed here at Angelorum/Next Step by God Himself!
A challenge our nurses are facing fairly frequently, however, is perhaps more perplexing and harder to understand than the abortion minded patient – if that is even possible. This is the woman who is excited and thankful to see a positive pregnancy test, this is the woman that appreciates the gift of the baby, this is the woman that is honored that God chose her. This is the woman that comes to the clinic for her ultrasound with her husband ~ and then sadly realizes she has had or is in the process of having a miscarriage ~ this is the family that discovers absence of life where life was expected and anticipated ~ this is devastation and emptiness.
And now, my request for prayer . . .
These women, and all of the women that come to our clinic that find themselves facing an unplanned pregnancy, are our neighbors, daughters, sisters, granddaughters, and parishioners. They are not monsters or aliens. They are the the little girls we bought cookies from outside the grocery store and smiled at during the elementary school talent show. They are a few years older now, they are scared, and they feel alone ~ and they need our prayers. So, please pray for them and their babies and please ask our Lord to intervene and protect them. Ask that He gives the women the courage to tell their parents that they are now grandparents and that they, in turn, accept the news lovingly. Ask that the women learn the truth about adoption and what a loving decision adoption is. Ask that they learn to live their lives with purity, dignity and integrity, as we were created and intended to live!
Thank you and please know that you are in our prayers as well! Joy & Peace, Kathy Dizard